Once a nerdy, skinny professor of philosophical psychology who couldn’t hold a conversation to save his life, David is now director of Aura Transformation Corp., and a world renowned dating and life coach using therapeutic methods.
Dr. Tian has been featured in international media, including AXN, Cosmopolitan, Psychology Today, as well as co-hosting a radio show on national radio and a weekly dating advice column in a national newspaper in Singapore.
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Hey, it’s David Tian, Ph.D. and welcome to Episode 90 of Man Up. So answering questions from the private Facebook Group and this one comes from 00:30 Eek Boon. The question is, “Hi David. I’ve been following your videos, blogs, and listening to your podcast and interviews elsewhere.
Your experience and insights were really helpful for me in my journey to find my own masculinity. Thank you for your work. I love them. I have a question, how does a man connect with his emotional center?”
Wow that sounds really, really deep. It’s a long question, I’m going to just pick in some of these sentences to read out. “I’ve always been an intellectual person. Many people said that I’m smart and intelligent. I work in an IT job where it involves sitting in front of the computer.
I read and use the computer a lot. The more I know, the more I need to find out and then more. Recently, I took course to discover and have more awareness of myself to uncover what are the things that are holding me back in life? It’s clear that one thing is holding me back.
It’s that I’m too much on my head and not in my heart whether it’s being completely, emotionally, and socially open, vulnerable, having good social connectedness, ability to make things happen and lead due to procrastinating and action over thinking, etc. Even though it’s obvious to others that I’m intelligent, ambitious, have a powerful presence and leadership potential.
I was asked to connect with my heart but I struggled particularly when stressed even though I was able to connect with myself well and connect deeply with others at times. I’m considering taking up tango and meditation in an effort to get myself more connected within but would also love to hear your thoughts.”
A couple of things here, first of all, the question says really big and it sounds like you’re using these terms without fully comprehending them. You took a course and you said the course’s staff said this. So it sounds like the way you’re using this, the question was how does a man connect with his emotional center? I don’t think you understand what the emotional center is, I mean, that’s a really big question.
As a scientist like, what’s an emotional center? How do you connect with that? It sounds pretty new-agey here but I’m all into that, I’m a big champion of meditation and of course I was a professor of Asian Philosophy.
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