Once a nerdy, skinny professor of philosophical psychology who couldn’t hold a conversation to save his life, David is now director of Aura Transformation Corp., and a world renowned dating and life coach using therapeutic methods.
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In episode 74, We talk about: She has a boyfriend, what do you say and can you be prepared for all scenarios?
Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up!
Hey, it’s David Tian, Ph.D. welcome to episode 74 of man up. And here I’m going to answer the second half of David’s question in the private Facebook group. The second half of his question. Remember in the previous episode, he asked a question about being divorced. The second question he asked here is “I assume in some cases, we all get rejected by girls.
For example, sorry I have a boyfriend. What is the proper course of action in that case? Should I smile and say something along the lines of ‘as expected, perhaps some other time’.” Not bad. “I just like to be prepared for all scenarios. Thank you so much!” I ask a follow up question, because I assume he’s an intelligent man. I asked him what prompts him to say sorry I have a boyfriend, he says, “thanks!”.
I haven’t said anything yet. In bracket he says, “although thanks to your videos, I do indeed know what to say.” And then he continues, “but I just like to be prepared for all scenarios for instance a girl in fact has a boyfriend. Thanks!”.
This is going to be a short episode, but it’s a common problem. And if you want to be prepared for all scenarios before you act, you will never act. You will never act. Now, I’m going to give you a quick rundown on how to deal with the “boyfriend” reply. It’s not a rejection, it’s a reply. I’m going to give you a quick rundown on that. But your bigger problem is I have a feeling this isn’t going to solve your issue.
Because you’re going to have… what if she… what if, what if, what if, what if! And there’s never an end to that. You have to take action. Have a bias for actions, stole that from amazon. Have a bias for action. Just go out and do it first. Be like an early stage start up. Just go and try it, test it and then come back.
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