The problem is always you.
One of the things I’ve found quite fascinating from stories I hear is how often we blame those around us for things that aren’t going right.
There is a very distinct phrasing when I hear of a story of two people in an argument. It typically goes something like, “If you stopped nagging me to take out the trash, I would do it on my own” we’re blaming another individual for the problems that occur in our life. However, something we forget is that the problem is always us.
We have complete control of one thing in our life, and no one can force us to comply with them. And that is our attitude, how we choose to react to things that are upon us. Problems are with you, how you view them. If you play the victim, you are giving up your attitude to the problem. Allowing it to control you. A problem isn’t a problem if you see it as an opportunity—an opportunity for growth. You always learn something, even if it’s the reaffirmation of something you already knew to be true.
I’ve thought quite a bit about this and discovered that you need to disconnect yourself from the mistakes you make. You need to be responsible for them, but you need to release it from your pride. You fell learning roller skating, and someone laughed at you. You are now at a crossroads; laugh along with them at your mistake, or get angry and hold fast to your pride. When you hold on to your mistake, you are arrogant, saying that you are perfect and life just happened to you, and you cannot do anything about it. Or embrace the fall, realize that you are not perfect, and take it as apart of your learning experience.
1) If the problem is an issue, it’s an issue because of you
2) Only you control your attitude and perception
3) Look at problems as opportunities for growth
4) Disconnect yourself from your mistake
5) Holding fast to your mistake is holding fast to your pride. You are saying you are perfect